External and internal

"And if you don’t know, you see, if you’re not really vividly aware of the fact that you are basically the works, you have no real joy in life. You’re just a bundle of anxiety mixed up with guilt. Because, you see, when we bring children into the world we play awful games with them. Instead of saying, "How do you do? Welcome to the human race. Now, my dear, we are playing some very complicated games. And these are the rules of the game we’re playing. I want you to understand them, and then you’ll learn them, and then—when you get a little bit older—you may be able to think up some better rules."
Instead of being quite direct with our children, instead, we say,"You’re here on probation, you understand that? And maybe, when you grow up a bit, you’ll be acceptable. But until then you should be seen and not heard. You’re a mess, and you’ve got to be educated, and schooled, and whipped until you are human. So that these attitudes which are inculcated into us in infancy go on into old age. The way you start out is liable to be the way you finish.
So people [are] going around fundamentally feeling that they don’t belong, because their parents said to them in the first place, "Look, you don’t really belong here. You’re here on sufferance. You’re on probation, you’re not a human being yet."And people feel this right on into old age. And so they figure that the universe is presided over by this awful kind of God the father-parent who—yes—has our best interests at heart, is loving, but who spares the rod spoils the child.

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"The external world is your own body, extended. So he — instead of going up to the hill and saying,"Good afternoon! I very much want to live here and I would want to like to know what kind of house you would like to have built on you." - an intelligent architect always does that — instead of that, he has a prejudice about what kind of a house is a house. And he has to make the hill submit to this prejudice. So he has to ruin the hill and get rid of it, pretty much; then put the house on it. He’s absolutely out of his mind. And he’s out of his mind because he doesn’t realize that the external world is his body. When he realizes that he’ll get his mind back.

Alan Watts