How to know what to do

From the corner of your eye you can't measure the monster adequately. To measure it so adequately that you can slay it, you gotta look it into the very eye, and examine the whole body of it, you may even start to dance around it and see its 3-D format. Don't you freeze.

Most monsters of this age are metaphorical, they don't require your freeze, that's the old way of conquering the animal who only sees life black and white. Today's monsters require your brain to work logically, they don't necessarily require physical strength.

Look it in the eye. Then burn it, most of the time you can do it bit by bit.

When you want to get on the mountain, you don't turn on your heels because it is too high to jump on in one go. You start to enjoy the sweaty little steps up there. You might camp on the way and take a rest. But you'll get to the mountain top.

Don't give your monsters a complexity that they seem to have from the vague impression that you get from a fearful side glimpse. Look them straight in the eye. Don't half ass them. Analyse them to the bones like a razor sharp laser. Don't be lazy with your personal analysis of your surroundings. Put your whole focus and 100 % heart into it like you're doing high impact consultancy for the ethically worthiest and richest company in the world.

All the unnecessary pain and fear will disappear. You'll know what you have to do.

It’s hard to photograph the moon through a window

„Anything can happen next. Tea, or gunshots, or the streetlights

coming on outside this room, and the other, where you are (...)

 What do we mean when

we talk about perfection?

If I’d been better at life would we never

have met? Here is the inventory. Here

is the old lexicon, here all the things

you left behind: Sorrow. Nevermind. Cardinal

sleeping in throat chakra. Meditation cushion. One

espresso maker, barely used. (...)

 Thing is, (...)

You can be a terrible artist and a good person.

You can be a great artist and a terrible person.

You can be a terrible artist and a terrible person.

It’s hard to photograph the moon through a window. (...)

You can be a person who draws the moon as it wants

to be drawn, in the likeness of a thirteen-year-old 

who hasn’t lost anyone. (...) 

You can be a person who burned it all down (...) 

 and this will not save you either.“ 

 - Marty McConnell in her poem „treatise on the nature of non-abandonment“

f o c u s

Someone can have a solid base of talents and potential, but it is not what fulfils him. What fulfils is when someone points their focus on these talents like a laser pointer for a considerable amount of time.

People might have struggled at school but they can excel in their work later because they focus on something. Exceptionally talented people have no guarantee for excelling in their later work, it comes down to focus for them as well.

Focus is the water everybody cooks their lives with, no matter how big or small.

Focus is only possible when mind, body and soul work together. Essential needs that are not being met divert the focus. Addictions of any kind divert the focus (addictions to substances as well as to people). Longing takes away essential focus. 

The focus shouldn't suck your soul - it should not irreversibly go against your needs for too long. Its goal point should be eventually meeting your needs effectively, even if you have to postpone the instant gratification - the instant gratification of letting your focus switch to whatever your desires might be at any given moment. 

Focus might be one of the most important things in life. Where you focus, your energy goes. Where your energy goes makes all the difference for your life and for the whole world. 

Teach your mind to be able to focus. Teach your mind to break the focus in a snap and relax. Teach your mind to regain focus in a snap. Consider this training a life long exercise.

Maybe your focus is on developing amazing social skills. Maybe it is learning how to get along with the least bit of material things and getting along in any culture while travelling. Maybe it is in learning new languages. Maybe it is in most complex physics. Maybe it is in creating beautiful art. Maybe it is in playing the cello so well that people connect to their souls when they hear your music. Maybe it is in being the best chef in the village. Maybe it is in mastering the art of raising children and meeting their needs. Maybe it is leadership skills for a company. Maybe it is an arduous law exercise. Maybe it is crafting the best wood furniture. Maybe it is in planting and fostering a nourishing garden or farm. 

Maybe you have to many things you want to focus on. This might lead to not focussing on anything. So choose. You can choose over after you mastered the first thing. 

What keeps you from focussing? No one can or even should focus 24/7 on one thing. 

But all you ever do is focus.